Your Story

Your Story

by | Jun 12, 2024 | divorce, dreams, family, journaling, marriage, Reflection, Relationship Advice, Travel

You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start

where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis

It was Freshman orientation at the University of San Diego and my ex-husband and I were getting our son settled into his new digs for the year. As is customary, a gathering was held to welcome the new students and their parents to the USD family.

The University President, James T. Harris III, shared his thoughts and wisdom with the new wide-eyed students as they embarked on a new chapter in life. The one piece of advice offered by this sage leader was one that I’ve carried with me ever since:

“Always be humble and kind; and remember who gets to write your story”.

Even as I write this, I well up in tears a little bit thinking about the profoundness of that short but innocuous statement, and how it had impacted me at the time…and still does.

We often believe we have no power in our lives, and yet, in truth, we hold all the power. Of course, it’s easy to forget this and we lose track of just how much of our power we give to other people, especially in an emotionally abusive relationship or divorce.

It took me quite some time to understand this important lesson and how effortlessly we can slide into the abyss of powerlessness when the outside world seems to be closing in on us.

In a divorce or in other stressful times, it can feel like our power is being taken from us, when in fact, we’re the ones handing over, and sometimes we do it with a smile and a “thank you”! (We’ll get into people pleasing at another time).

What have I learned? It doesn’t have to be that way.

As with the students, you get to write your own story too. It’s up to you to take a step, reclaim your power and step into the life you love.

You have access to support any time you are ready to reclaim your power. It’s up to you to take a step on your own behalf!

If you’re ready to write a new story and don’t know where to start, ​schedule a complimentary consultation with me today;​ and together we will explore what level of support you might need to move forward and create your new and empowered life.

Love and Light,

Michèle

Hourglass

Hourglass

by | Jun 6, 2024 | divorce, dreams, family, journaling, marriage, Reflection, Travel

The more sand has escaped from the hourglass of our life, the clearer we should see through it. ~Niccolo Machiavelli

When I was a little girl, my mom used a tiny “hourglass” with a 5 minute duration to measure the cook-time of soft boiled eggs. Of course, the silence of the last grain of sand slipping through the waist of the glass often led to overcooked eggs and soon, the tiny egg- timer was relegated to the back of the utensil drawer.

I have always been fascinated by hourglasses—the symbolism of the feminine shape along with the constant and silent passage of time. It all seemed so mysterious!

As the glass is turned, it’s like the beginning of an awesome vacation with all those endless days of blissfulness ahead. Then, you wake up one morning and realize you’ve only got a few hours before going back home…and there’s still so much left to do and see!

Where did all the time go?

Once the sand runs out, and it eventually does for all of us, it’s gone. Vanished! Finale! Kaput!

“But wait, I was planning to have some fun, to live my life, to travel, to experience real love, to start my dream business, to __________________________, once I ______________________________ (fill in the blanks).

Whenever I see an hourglass, I think of that little egg timer exiled from the kitchen counter and am reminded of how it was so easily rendered useless and forgotten.

It’s exactly how I thought my life would be when I was faced with the decision to leave or to stay in a marriage, I knew in my heart wasn’t right for me.

Exiled, useless, and forgotten.

Who would I be if I wasn’t married, living in suburbia, driving a Lexus, and running the school auction? What would people say about me?

Probably that I looked a lot happier!

As the sands of my life moved through the glass, it became clearer to me what was truly important and what I’ve learned is that I am not my “status” in the social circles of life and my worth has nothing to do with the people I spend time with, the things I own or the clothes I wear.

Life is meant to live and to be lived well.

If you’re unhappy and living in limbo, waiting for your partner or circumstances to change, NOW is the time to make the decision to live your life!

It all starts with giving yourself permission to take the next step to see what is possible for you.

​Schedule a free consultation with me today and together we will explore what level of support you might need to shift the sands of your life. ​

Love is like an hourglass, with the heart filling up as the brain empties. ~Jules Renard

Love and Light,

Michèle

How Good Are You Willing to Let Your Life Get?

How Good Are You Willing to Let Your Life Get?

by | May 23, 2024 | divorce, family, journaling, marriage, Reflection, Travel

This was a question one of my mentors asked in the early days of my quest to change my life and it stumped me. I wasn’t sure how to speak my truth about what I really wanted in life because, as much as I wanted to believe I deserved more in this life, I still harbored some serious doubt about the effectiveness of all this self-improvement stuff. I thought “sure, it’s fine for all those other people, but maybe not me.” This, by the way, was code for “fear of failure”.

But seriously, ask yourself, “how good am I willing to let my life get?”

I’m here to tell you, this question pretty much changed my life. And while it’s taken several years, and of course, doubt comes knocking on occasion, I am witness to my own transformation and the pure joy that comes from believing in myself as the creator of my life. As hard as it is to believe this, it’s true.

I’ve been in Florence, Italy since last week and have been loving every moment of it! Amazing food, wine, shopping, artwork, scenic and historic surroundings everywhere I look! This used to be “the dream!”

I’ve spent quality time with my personal coach and my Mastermind group, comprised of incredibly talented, generous, and loyal women who are all on their own journeys. Each one of us has been challenged in life and each of us has also asked the question “how good am I willing to let life get?” The answers get better as each year passes. And while my dream may not be your dream, you do have one (or a 100) and your dream can come true if only you would allow it.

No matter what obstacle or sinkhole life may be dishing out, you have the ability to change your life.

I didn’t do it all on my own, I got help. If you could use some help making your dream come true, I’m here to support you. Give me a call or schedule a free confidential consultation with me today and together we can explore what’s possible for you.

Love and Light,

Michèle