“You can’t go back to how things were. How you thought they were. All you really have is…now.”
― Jay Asher
A while back while talking to a friend, I was sharing some sentimental feelings regarding what I missed about the experience of a relationship I had completed several months earlier.
…the fun things we’d done together…
…the companionship…
…the dinners and laughter shared during those “awesome” moments.
Then she said, “Well, you can always go back.”
And I responded, “No, no, I am unavailable to go BACK to anything in my life.”
While not my focal point, I also remembered the feelings of loneliness, sadness, and uncertainty about where either of us stood in the relationship.
For me the only path forward was one of expansion and growth.
Going backward in any area of life once you’ve expanded and grown beyond where you once were is nearly impossible.
It’s like trying to push toothpaste back into the tube after it’s been squeezed out. Once it’s out, it’s onto its purpose—there’s no going back without making a big mess.
Though I can feel sentimental about the memories of my past, I know in my heart there’s so much more out there for me.
The same is true for you!
If you spend your time and energy in the past, you never have the delightful experience of the present moment. And if you’re not living in the present, where are you?
Creating a future from the present is filled with creativity and so much more fun!
When the dynamics of relationships, careers, financial circumstances change, it doesn’t mean life is over, it just means it’s time to see what else is possible for you.
I’m not saying every step of the way will be easy, but letting things unfold as they’re meant to be almost always leads to something you never expected in the past.
Love and Light,
Michèle