This one is tough to write, but it feels important—especially with the holidays approaching. There’s a quote by Luciano De Crescenzo that always stays with me: “We are each of us angels with only one wing. And we can only fly by embracing each other.” It’s a beautiful reminder of our need for connection, yet so many people today are struggling with loneliness, even when they’re surrounded by others.
In my work, and in my life, I see this far too often. Clients who’ve been in long-term marriages or relationships tell me about the emptiness they’ve felt for years—sitting across the table from a partner who’s physically there but emotionally absent. I’ve seen the sadness in their eyes when they talk about the silences that have become a daily routine, meals eaten in quiet disconnect, questions met with half-hearted responses. It’s a kind of loneliness that runs deep.
And it’s not just in intimate relationships. You can see it all around us. Take a look next time you’re out—families, couples, friends sitting together, but their attention buried in their phones. Everyone is so busy avoiding discomfort that they miss the opportunity to truly connect. It’s no surprise, then, that we live in a world where nearly half of American adults are single or unpartnered, perpetuating a cycle of loneliness.
What’s troubling is how loneliness quietly creeps into our lives and settles in, making us feel like we’re not seen, not heard, not valued. It can happen slowly, or it can hit us all at once, but either way, it hurts. While it may not matter, I want you to know you’re not alone.
Here’s where I hope to offer a bit of light. I’ve worked with people who felt trapped in their own isolation, convinced there was no way out of the emotional rut they were in. They didn’t believe things could change. But with time and intention, they found connection—not necessarily through romantic love, but through rediscovering themselves, deepening friendships, or even reaching out for help when they needed it most. Sometimes the act of reaching out is the bravest thing we can do. And quite frankly, people really want to feel needed and would be flattered if only you would reach out.
I had a client who came to me after years of feeling invisible in her marriage. She felt utterly disconnected, not just from her partner but from herself. Her world had become so small. Over time, as we worked together, she began to set simple intentions—to seek out moments of real connection, even if it was just making eye contact with a stranger or asking her neighbor how their day was. Those small steps built into something bigger. She found a community of people who uplifted her, and little by little, she began to feel seen again. That’s the power of intention: it doesn’t have to be a grand gesture; it’s the small, steady steps toward reconnecting with yourself and others.
If you’re feeling that same sense of loneliness, I want you to know it’s okay to reach out for help. Whether it’s to a friend, a family member, or someone who’s been where you are, there’s no shame in saying, “I need someone.” Sometimes, we need a hand to pull us out of that dark place, and that’s not a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of strength. Loneliness doesn’t have to be a permanent state.
As we head into the holiday season, let’s remember that connection—true connection—is what gives us wings. It’s not about filling the silence with noise, but about filling our hearts with the love and support we all deserve.
Love and Light,
Michele
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