Winter has a way of slowing us down. The long, quiet nights and crisp, cold mornings seem to ask us to pause, reflect, and listen—to the truth we’ve been too busy or too scared to face. For some, that truth is clear: this relationship isn’t working anymore.
It’s a hard truth to sit with, isn’t it? The holidays don’t make it any easier. On the surface, it’s all glittering lights, festive gatherings, and cheery Instagram posts. But underneath, for many of us, it’s the season where cracks in our relationships become impossible to ignore.
Maybe it’s the endless arguments about money or the forced smiles around the dinner table. Maybe it’s the gut-punch realization that you’re lonelier in your marriage than you would be alone. Whatever it is, something about this season stirs the question: Is this how I want to live the rest of my life?
If this is you—you’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure it out by yourself.
Why Divorce Filings Surge After the Holidays
You might have heard about the so-called “Divorce Surge” in January. It’s not that everyone wakes up on January 1 and decides to end their marriage. No, that decision often starts now, in the thick of the holiday season–most likely months ago or holiday seasons passed.
Think about it:
- Holiday Stress
Between gift-giving, family visits, and trying to pull off a Hallmark-worthy celebration, the holidays can bring out the best—and worst—in a relationship. It’s hard to ignore the cracks when you’re juggling all that pressure. - End-of-Year Reflection
Winter invites us to slow down and take stock. The question of “Am I happy?” hits differently when you’re staring into the glow of the twinkling lights, wondering what’s missing. - The New Year’s Promise
January is all about fresh starts, right? A clean slate. Many people spend the holidays gathering their courage and clarity, preparing to take that first step when the calendar flips. - Winter Blues and Close Quarters
Let’s be honest: winter forces us inside—literally and emotionally. If things are already tense, that extra time together can amplify everything that isn’t working.
Why Now is the Time to Hire a Divorce Coach
Here’s the thing: if you’re already feeling the pull toward change, waiting until after the holidays won’t make it easier. In fact, it might make it harder. This season doesn’t have to be about staying stuck; it can be about getting ready.
As a Certified Divorce Coach, I’m here to help you do just that. Let’s clear away the overwhelm and focus on what you truly want. Together, we’ll make sure you step into the new year feeling prepared and empowered, not reactive and regretful.
Here’s how I can help:
1. Cut Through the Chaos
The idea of divorce can feel like standing in front of a mountain with no map. Where do you even begin? That’s where I come in. I’ll help you focus on what matters, break things into manageable steps, and stay grounded so you’re not paralyzed by the emotional storm.
2. Create a Plan
I’m not just here to hold your hand (although I’m happy to do that, too). I’m here to help you organize your thoughts, your goals, and yes, even your paperwork. We’ll make sure you’re prepared for every step, whether you’re still considering divorce or ready to take the leap.
3. Keep Your Eyes Forward
Divorce is about more than ending or completing a relationship, it’s about reclaiming your life. I’ll help you focus on the possibilities ahead rather than getting lost in the pain of what’s behind. Together, we’ll make sure you’re making decisions that align with your values and your future.
4. Work Smarter with Your Team
Therapists, mediators, attorneys all play a role in the divorce process. But here’s the secret: without someone helping you manage the emotional rollercoaster; you’re not getting the most out of those professionals. I’ll help you show up to your legal and financial appointments with clarity and purpose, saving you time, money, and stress.
This Season Can Be the Start of Something New
I know this is hard. I’ve been there myself, staring down the holidays and wondering how I’d get through. But I also know that with the right support, this season of change can become a season of growth.
You don’t have to wait until January to start feeling better. You don’t have to go through this alone. Let’s turn this winter into the beginning of something beautiful—a time to rediscover your strength, reclaim your life, and step boldly into the future you deserve.
Love and Light,
Michele
If you’re ready to explore the possibilities, I’d love to support you.
Together, we can uncover the harmony that’s waiting in your life.