The holidays can be a complicated time, especially when life as you know it has been turned upside down. Whether you’re going through a divorce, grieving a loss, or simply facing a big change, the traditions that once felt like comfort can suddenly feel like reminders of what’s missing. And it hurts. The urge to recreate what used to be can be overwhelming, even as it feels impossible.
But here’s what I’ve learned: sometimes letting go of those old traditions can be exactly what your heart needs to start healing. When we loosen our grip on the way things should be, we create space for something new—something that might surprise us with its simplicity and joy.
Years ago, in a moment that could have felt like defeat, I made a choice to do things differently. Instead of trying to force the holiday into something it no longer was, my family and I gave ourselves permission to start fresh. What that looked like was slower, quieter, and far less complicated. There was no pressure to perform or perfect. And in that tiny space of “let’s just do what feels good,”we found warmth, connection, and even laughter.
If you’re staring at this holiday season wondering how you’ll make it through, here’s what I want you to know: you don’t have to carry everything forward.You don’t have to decorate the same, host the same gatherings, or keep traditions that feel heavy when your heart feels raw. You get to choose. Maybe you’ll find joy in creating homemade gifts. Maybe you’ll spend the day in pajamas, watching movies and eating comfort food. Maybe you’ll travel somewhere new or decide that this year, simple is enough.
There is so much freedom in giving yourself permission to do it differently. To step away from the “shoulds” and ask yourself, “What do I actually want?” The answers might surprise you. And over time, as you adjust to your new rhythm, you may find yourself looking forward to these little traditions you’ve created out of love, rather than obligation.
The holidays are not about recreating perfection. They’re about finding moments of connection—whether with yourself, your family, or the quiet peace of the day itself. Let this be the year you allow your heart to rest. Let this be the year you embrace what feels true and good for you now.
And remember this: it’s okay to let go. Sometimes, in the letting go, we stumble into something even better. Something that feels lighter, easier, and just right for this new chapter of life.
Love and Light,
Michele
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