As you stand at the crossroads of a new chapter in your life, I want to share a story that might resonate with you and offer some hope and encouragement.

When my marriage ended, I felt like I had lost a part of myself. My identity had been so intertwined with my role as a spouse that I struggled to see who I was outside of that relationship. The journey to rediscovering and embracing my new identity was not easy, but it was profoundly transformative.

The first step was acceptance. I had to accept that my life had changed and that my old identity no longer defined me. This acceptance allowed me to open myself up to new possibilities and to start exploring who I could become.

I began by reconnecting with my passions. I asked myself what activities brought me joy and fulfillment. I revisited hobbies that I had set aside during my marriage and discovered new interests that I had never explored before. This exploration was not just about keeping busy; it was about rediscovering what made me feel alive.

Another crucial part of my journey was surrounding myself with a supportive community. I found strength in connecting with others who were going through similar experiences. Sharing our stories and supporting each other helped me realize that I was not alone and that my feelings were valid.

I also took time to reflect on my values and goals. I asked myself what kind of life I wanted to build and what kind of person I wanted to be. This reflection helped me set new priorities and create a vision for my future that was aligned with my true self.

Embracing my new identity meant letting go of guilt and self-judgment. It meant being kind to myself and acknowledging that it was okay to feel lost and uncertain at times. I learned to celebrate my progress, no matter how small, and to be patient with myself as I navigated this new path.

Today, I am proud of the person I have become. My divorce did not define me; it was a catalyst for my growth and transformation. I have discovered strengths I never knew I had, and I have built a life that is true to who I am.

I share my story with you because I want you to know that redefining your identity post-divorce is not only possible but can be incredibly empowering. You have the strength within you to embrace this new chapter and to discover a version of yourself that is resilient, authentic, and full of potential.

As a life strategist and divorce coach, I am here to support you on this journey. Together, we can explore your passions, set meaningful goals, and build a future that reflects your true self.

If you are ready to start this transformative journey, I invite you to schedule a complimentary discovery session with me. Let’s take the first step together toward embracing your new identity and creating a life that you love.

Love and Light,

Michèle

No Judgement Zone

No Judgement Zone – Make a conscious effort NOT to judge anyone or anything for the day (including yourself). We tend to live in a world of perpetual judgement. We all do it, all throughout the day, without even realizing it sometimes. These judgements can also harbor negative emotions. So do what you can within your power to consciously not pass judgement on others during the day. And if you catch yourself judging, simply say “delete” and start again. At the end of the day, take a moment to reflect and write down what you’ve discovered about yourself—no judgement!

Taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically, is crucial as you navigate life transitions. You’re not alone, and there is a path forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. If you know someone that could use a little boost of Self Care, please feel free to share this tip with them by hitting the button below.

Ladies, if you’re anything like me, you’ve been the queen of multi-tasking, the maestro of managing chaos, and the ultimate champion of cheerleading—mostly for everyone else. I know. I lost myself in a long-term marriage where I felt unheard, betrayed, emotionally abused, and like I was disappearing. At the time, the very idea of self-worth was a foreign concept and the idea of investing in myself was completely absurd!

Why is it that we can justify splurging on the latest gear for our kids’ sports teams, planning family vacations down to the last detail, and even supporting our husbands’ dream of owning a flashy new car, yet when it comes to spending time or money on our own growth, we hesitate?

I struggled with feelings of unworthiness. Somewhere deep down, a little voice whispered, “You’re not worth it.” Whether it was investing in a course or a coach that could change my career, a wellness retreat, or even just a regular facial or massage, that voice piped up, making me question if I really deserved it. Of course, I deserve it and so do you!

The unknown is terrifying. It’s like stepping into a dark room without knowing what’s inside. What if we fail? What if we succeed? What if investing in ourselves disrupts the comfortable (if unfulfilling) routine we’ve settled into? It’s much easier to stay in our safe, familiar bubble, even if it means stifling our potential and our dreams.

Remember that time someone told you that your dreams were unrealistic? Or that focusing on yourself was selfish? Those old, limiting beliefs can cling like glitter—impossible to shake off completely. They shaped my decisions, making me hesitant to step into my power and prioritize my own growth. Sound familiar?

Here’s where investing in a coach made all the difference for me. My coach helped me rediscover my worthiness, break through those old limiting beliefs, and navigate the unknown with confidence. She provided guidance, accountability, and a fresh perspective that illuminated paths I never knew existed. With my coach, I wasn’t just taking steps—I was making strides toward a more fulfilling and abundance filled life.

Investing in yourself isn’t just about the immediate gains. It’s about expanding your horizons and opening up new possibilities. When you invest in personal growth, you’re not just learning new skills or gaining knowledge—you’re expanding your capacity to dream, to achieve, and to live a life that truly reflects who you are. You’re setting a powerful example for those around you, especially your children, showing them that self-investment is not just valuable but essential.

You deserve a life filled with joy, purpose, and fulfillment. You deserve to reclaim your sense of self and to live in alignment with your true passions and desires. Investing in yourself is a way to honor that deservingness. It’s about acknowledging that you are worth the time, effort, and resources needed to grow and thrive.

If it’s time to flip the script in your life and become your own cheerleader, schedule a free consultation with me today. Learn how investing in your own dreams with the same enthusiasm you invest in everyone else’s can change your life. You’re worth it. You’ve always been worth it. Now it’s time to believe it.

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Love and Light,

Michèle

Divorce. The word alone can feel like a punch to the gut, can’t it? Whether you saw it coming or it hit you like a wild wave, the emotional aftermath is often a whirlwind of grief, confusion, and, yes, anger. Anger is a tricky beast—it’s a natural response to feeling hurt and betrayed, but it can also be a heavy anchor, weighing you down when you’re trying to sail towards a brighter future. 

Let’s face it, anger during and after a divorce is a common experience. Your dreams, your routines, even your Netflix queue—all suddenly upended. It’s like having the rug pulled out from under your feet while you’re carrying a tray full of delicate China. But here’s the thing: while anger is a normal emotion, clinging to it can prevent you from moving forward. 

The Unexpected Friend: Anger 

Initially, anger might feel like an old friend. It gives you energy, a sense of purpose, and something to focus on. It’s a powerful emotion that tells you, “Hey, something’s not right here!” But like that friend who always overstays their welcome, anger can start to do more harm than good if you let it linger. 

It’s like trying to drive to a beautiful destination, but you’ve got the parking brake on. That’s what holding onto anger feels like. You can push the pedal to the metal all you want, but you’re not going anywhere fast. And let’s be honest, it’s exhausting! 

Letting Go: Easier Said Than Done 

So, how do you let go of anger? It’s not like you can just flip a switch and suddenly be all Zen. It’s a process, and it starts with acknowledging your feelings. Give yourself permission to be angry. Yell into a pillow, write an angry letter (that you never send), or belt out a power ballad in the shower. Recognizing your anger is the first step in processing it. 

But don’t stop there. Understanding the root of your anger is crucial. Are you angry because you feel betrayed? Hurt? Scared? Digging deeper into these emotions can help you address the underlying issues. Remember, anger is often a secondary emotion, masking more vulnerable feelings. 

The Power of Perspective 

This is where the magic happens—changing your perspective. It’s like looking at a messy painting up close and then stepping back to see the whole picture. Yes, your relationship ended, and that’s painful, but it’s not the end of your story. This could be the beginning of a new chapter filled with possibilities you never imagined. 

A professional coach can be incredibly valuable during this process. Think of them as your personal guide, helping you navigate the choppy waters of divorce. They offer an objective perspective, helping you see things differently and find peace. With their support, you can transform your anger into acceptance, and eventually, into growth. 

The Coaching Connection 

Working with a coach provides a safe space to explore your feelings without judgment. They can help you set goals, develop coping strategies, and rediscover your strengths. It’s like having a co-pilot who’s been through the storm and knows how to chart a course to calmer seas. 

Coaches can also introduce you to techniques such as mindfulness and emotional regulation, which can be game changers in managing anger. Through guided exercises, you learn to observe your thoughts and feelings without getting swept away by them. It’s like upgrading from a rickety rowboat to a sturdy sailboat—you’re still on the water, but you’re much better equipped to handle the waves. 

Finding the Silver Lining 

Letting go of anger doesn’t mean you have to forgive and forget. It means making a conscious choice to prioritize your peace and well-being. It’s about reclaiming your power and focusing on the things that bring you joy. It’s the emotional equivalent of clearing out your closet—you’re making space for new, beautiful things. 

So, next time you feel that familiar surge of anger, take a deep breath and remind yourself that you’re in control. It’s okay to feel angry, but don’t let it drive the bus. Embrace the journey of letting go and consider inviting a professional coach along for the ride. They might just have the perfect map to guide you towards a future filled with peace, growth, and yes, even a little bit of laughter. 

Remember, you’re not just surviving this storm—you’re learning to dance in the rain. And who knows? Maybe the next chapter of your life will be the best one yet. 

If you’re ready to explore how a coach might help you in your situation,

schedule a free consultation with me today.

Love and Light,

Michèle

Invite a friend out to Walk

Invite a friend out to Walk – I’m all for solo walks to clear your head, but walking with someone can be a lovely change of pace! Being able to chat as you take in your surrounds is refreshing. I have a couple of girlfriends who live close by and sometimes an impromptu invitation for a walk gives us the opportunity to catch up, get some exercise, and simply stay in connection with one another.

Taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically, is crucial as you navigate life transitions. You’re not alone, and there is a path forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. If you know someone that could use a little boost of Self Care, please feel free to share this tip with them by hitting the button below.

Unicorns, Cauldrons, and Control: Why It’s Time to Focus on You 

Are you a “Fixer”? We all know one, in fact, chances are you’ve done your fair share of trying to fix, change, or control someone in order to make them fit into your life. You know the drill, “If only they would change, everything would be perfect.” Or “If only his kids or his ex-wife wasn’t so needy, our life would be blissful.”  

I have a friend who blows through men like the Antarctic wind. She seems to have no problem attracting them, but within a few weeks of their meeting, it becomes apparent to her that “he” simply needs to change if he’s going to meet her imagined standards.  

As the Supreme Fixer, she rushes in on her White Unicorn to single-handedly pull him out of the abyss of misery he’s so clearly in to begin fueling the cauldron of chaos that will magically transform him into the man she thinks he needs to be (ok, maybe the White Unicorn and the cauldron are a stretch, but you get the point).   

Here’s the real secret she and all of us other “Fixers” in the world seem to miss: Trying to change someone else is arrogant and pointless. The true power lies in focusing on yourself and your own patterns. 

The Control Freak’s Dilemma: Spoiler, It’s Futile! 

Trying to change someone else is like attempting to control the tide. People are complex beings with their own journeys and struggles. Your energy is precious and expending it on molding someone else is not only exhausting but also fruitless. 

Imagine what would happen if you redirected that energy towards your own growth. That’s where the real transformation begins, and it’s where you’ll find the peace and fulfillment you’re seeking. 

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Reflect, Don’t Deflect: Own Your Stuff 

Self-reflection is one of the most powerful tools at your disposal. It’s akin to holding up a mirror to your soul, examining your own behaviors, patterns, and triggers. It’s not always comfortable, in fact I know it’s not, but it’s incredibly rewarding. 

Ask yourself, “Why do I feel the need to change this person? What am I hoping to achieve?” Often, this need arises from a place of control, fear, or avoidance of our own issues. By digging deep and being honest with yourself, you uncover the root of your feelings and begin to understand the true source of your dissatisfaction. 

Actions Speak Louder: Show, Don’t Tell 

True leadership is about setting an example, not dictating change. When you focus on your own growth and development, you naturally inspire others to follow suit. Your actions speak louder than any words, and your journey of self-improvement becomes a beacon for those around you. 

When you witness someone thriving and living authentically, doesn’t it motivate you to do the same? Your journey can have a similar impact on others. By embodying the change, you wish to see, you become a catalyst for transformation. 

Drop the Drama: Freedom in Letting Go 

Letting go of the need to change someone else is incredibly liberating. It’s like shedding a heavy burden you’ve been carrying for far too long. This act of release allows you to focus on what truly matters—your own growth and happiness. 

Letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring about others. It means you start caring in a healthier, more constructive way. You accept people for who they are and focus on creating a life that brings you joy and fulfillment. This shift in focus opens space for new opportunities and experiences that align with your true self. 

It Starts with You: Your Growth Impacts Others 

Personal growth is contagious. When you focus on improving yourself, everything around you begins to shift. Your energy changes, your perspective broadens, and you become a magnet for positivity and growth. Others are naturally drawn to this energy, and your journey inspires them to embark on their own paths of self-discovery and improvement. 

By committing to your own growth, you inadvertently uplift those around you, creating an environment that fosters collective well-being and development. 

Adventure Awaits: Embrace Your Path 

Remember, this is a journey, not a destination. Embrace the ups and downs, the growth and setbacks. Each step you take towards focusing on yourself brings you closer to a more fulfilling and authentic life. In doing so, you create a ripple effect that touches everyone around you. 

So, let go of the need to fix or change others. Focus on your own beautiful journey. Trust in the process and watch as the magic unfolds. You’ve got this, and I’m cheering you on every step of the way. 

Your key to change is waiting. Schedule a consultation with me today and

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