Before I even knew I was embarking on a journey of self-discovery and reinvention, I read a little book called The Four Agreements that made a significant impact on the trajectory of my life. I highly recommend this transformative gem to anyone who hasn’t yet been enlightened by the principles contained within its covers. I just finished reading again and, as with the first reading, came away with several nuggets of valuable insight.

I was reminded of the thousands of unwritten and unspoken agreements we have made throughout our lives—to ourselves as well to others—most of which are based on something we’ve either been taught, assumptions or fabrications we’ve made up on our own.

Where do these agreements come from?

Parents, siblings, teachers, bosses, friends and just about anyone else we listen to can plant these seeds that often grow into one of these unspoken agreements that frequently become beliefs.

And once our beliefs are set, we proceed through life as if it is our truth. The Four Agreements author, Don Meguel Ruiz, refers to this surrendering to our beliefs process as “the domestication of humans” where we learn how to live without questioning the source.

The fact is that many, if not most, of these beliefs are rather useless and can be detrimental to our growth, expansion, and the ability to consider what else might be going on here.

The Sowers of said seeds didn’t necessarily intend to contaminate our minds. Afterall, they were only doing what they, too, had learned along the journey of their own domestication.

What agreements do you have in place keeping you

from creating the life you desire?

Whether you are facing a major life transition, a divorce, or simply want more in life than what you’re experiencing, you can change.

It all starts with investigating the uninvestigated beliefs and perceptions, and asking yourself, “is what I believe TRUE for me?” “If not, How do I make that old agreement null and void and create a new agreement?“

Anyone can do this, it may not be easy,

but it is possible.

If you’re ready to change some agreements in your life and could use some help, schedule a free consultation with me today and together we’ll explore what’s possible for you.

Love and Light,

Michèle 

I knew something was wrong, but I didn’t want to let myself accept it.

I had already been married and divorced once before and couldn’t believe I had let it happy again.

I was a strong, confident, accomplished woman…I didn’t think things like this could happen to me!

The man I married had swept me off my feet in the early days of courting, with flowers, special weekends away, offering fatherly attention to my daughter, safety for me, and seemed supportive of my career, had become rather dominating and excessively controlling…to the point that many people expressed their concern for my well-being.

Later I learned his behavior fell directly into the category of a Narcissist. I knew nothing about such things back then.

Make no mistake, controlling behaviors, along with emotional and/or financial abuse in a relationship or marriage do NOT equate to love.

If you can relate and are ready to explore your options, I can help.

Trust your gut and schedule a free and confidential consultation with me today. Together we’ll explore what level of support you might need as you navigate what’s next for you.

Love and Light,

Michèle

You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start

where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis

It was Freshman orientation at the University of San Diego and my ex-husband and I were getting our son settled into his new digs for the year. As is customary, a gathering was held to welcome the new students and their parents to the USD family.

The University President, James T. Harris III, shared his thoughts and wisdom with the new wide-eyed students as they embarked on a new chapter in life. The one piece of advice offered by this sage leader was one that I’ve carried with me ever since:

“Always be humble and kind; and remember who gets to write your story”.

Even as I write this, I well up in tears a little bit thinking about the profoundness of that short but innocuous statement, and how it had impacted me at the time…and still does.

We often believe we have no power in our lives, and yet, in truth, we hold all the power. Of course, it’s easy to forget this and we lose track of just how much of our power we give to other people, especially in an emotionally abusive relationship or divorce.

It took me quite some time to understand this important lesson and how effortlessly we can slide into the abyss of powerlessness when the outside world seems to be closing in on us.

In a divorce or in other stressful times, it can feel like our power is being taken from us, when in fact, we’re the ones handing over, and sometimes we do it with a smile and a “thank you”! (We’ll get into people pleasing at another time).

What have I learned? It doesn’t have to be that way.

As with the students, you get to write your own story too. It’s up to you to take a step, reclaim your power and step into the life you love.

You have access to support any time you are ready to reclaim your power. It’s up to you to take a step on your own behalf!

If you’re ready to write a new story and don’t know where to start, ​schedule a complimentary consultation with me today;​ and together we will explore what level of support you might need to move forward and create your new and empowered life.

Love and Light,

Michèle