For a long time, I was convinced life was happening to me. People let me down, situations felt unfair, and no matter how hard I tried, it seemed like I was always scrambling to keep up. And I had proof—real, tangible reasons why my struggles were someone else’s fault. If they had just been different, if circumstances had just worked out the way they shouldhave, I wouldn’t have been left picking up the pieces.

That belief felt safe. It made sense.

And it kept me completely stuck.

Then I came across Dr. Wayne Dyer’s words: “Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.” And to be honest, at first, I resisted it. Because if that was true, it meant the power wasn’t in them changing—it was in me changing how I saw things. And I wasn’t sure I was ready for that kind of responsibility.

Blame Feels Comfortable—But It’s a Trap

Let’s be real: blaming others can be oddly satisfying. It lets us off the hook. It gives us a clear villain in our story. But here’s the thing—when we see ourselves as just the recipientof what life hands us, we also give up our ability to change anything. If we’re waiting for someone else to be different before we can be happy, we could be waiting forever.

The real shift happened for me when I started asking a different question: What if this isn’t just about what’s happening to me, but about how I’m seeing it?

That person who hurt me? Maybe they weren’t just cruel—maybe they were operating from their own wounds. That season of my life that felt like failure? Maybe it was actually preparing me for something better. The moments I thought had broken me? Maybe they were the very things shaping me into someone stronger, wiser, and—dare I say it—even more open-hearted.

I will say that once I started shifting my perspective, things did change. Not overnight, not without effort, and definitely not without many moments of frustration—but they changed. In truth, I changed (and continue to learn and grow every day).

Growth Happens When We Stop Going It Alone

I won’t pretend I figured this all out by myself. I had help. I needed people who could call me out (lovingly) when I was slipping into my old narratives. I needed guidance to see beyond my own blind spots. And having the right support made all the difference. Because the truth is, we can only take ourselves so far before we need someone to hold up a mirror and say, Hey, have you considered looking at this a little differently?

So if you’re feeling stuck, frustrated, or just plain exhausted by the way things seem to be going, consider this: What if nothing outside of you has to change for you to feel different? What if the clarity, the peace, the strength you’re searching for isn’t waiting for the world to cooperate, but waiting for you to see it in a new way?

That shift—small as it may seem—is where everything begins. And once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

And that, my friend, is where real transformation starts.

Love and Light,

​Michèle Heffron
​Getting to the Heart – Who You Are and What You’re Meant For

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Sky Appreciation

Step outdoors and look up. Observe the sky for a full, uninterrupted minute. Notice the colors, the shapes of clouds, or the clear emptiness. Feel yourself connected to something vast and ever-changing. Let this simple observation remind you that there’s space for your own growth, too.

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We live in a world that rewards urgency. Move fast. Respond quickly. Get ahead. Don’t miss your chance. And yet, I’ve learned—sometimes the hard way—that the moments when I feel most desperate to act are the moments when I most need to pause.

There was a time when urgency ruled my life. If something felt off, I’d rush to “fix it”. If someone wronged me, I wanted to prove a point by spurting out some snarky remark. If an opportunity arose, I feared that if I didn’t jump immediately, I’d miss my chance. The energy behind it all wasn’t clarity—it was fear. Fear of being left behind. Fear of being unseen. Fear of losing control.

But here’s the deal: urgency is a trap. It makes us believe that the most important thing is acting now, when in truth, wisdom isn’t found in how quickly we react but knowing whatis moving us.

I started noticing a pattern in my life. The moments when I wanted to fire off a sharp response to a text message, hit the gas in frustration, or push forward with a decision just to escape the discomfort of uncertainty—those were the moments I most needed to step back. To sit with myself. To listen rather than react.

I won’t pretend it’s easy, in fact, I’ve missed my mark many times. Like when something stirs up frustration, anxiety, or a deep longing for validation, the impulse to “do something” is strong. But I’ve also learned that when I feel the most unsettled, the answer isn’t out there—it’s within me. The feeling of urgency is often just a sign that I am out of alignment with my own integrity. That I am letting my emotions, rather than my wisdom, drive the moment.

Think about the decisions you face each day. Does everything feel like a crisis? A test you need to pass? A problem you need to solve immediately? If so, ask yourself: What happens if I don’t react right now?

More often than not, the answer is: Nothing bad will happen.

But something good might. Clarity might come. Perspective might shift. A better path might reveal itself—one that you couldn’t have seen if you rushed ahead blindly.

I’ve come to trust that when urgency arises, it’s not a call to action—it’s a call to awareness. It’s life’s way of asking me to slow down, to breathe, and to remember that wisdom doesn’t shout. It whispers. And we can only hear it when we are still enough to listen.

So the next time urgency calls, pause before you answer. Your most powerful choices won’t come from rushing—they’ll come from knowing.

Love and Light,

​Michèle Heffron
​Getting to the Heart – Who You Are and What You’re Meant For

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Seed of Change

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Have you ever felt like your world was collapsing in on itself? Like everything you had built—your plans, your security, your sense of self—was slipping through your fingers, and no matter how hard you tried to hold on, the pieces kept falling? In those moments, it’s not just the loss that weighs heavy. It’s the way your focus shrinks, trapping you in the story of what’s gone wrong. The pain, the fear, the late-night spirals where your mind convinces you this is all there is—it becomes impossible to see anything beyond it.

But what if this isn’t the full story? What if, right now, you

are only seeing one frame of a much larger picture?

I know how easy it is to believe that where you are now is where you’ll always be. I’ve been there. I’ve lived through the unraveling, the uncertainty, the feeling that the life I knew had vanished overnight. And I’ve seen it in those I work with—people in the thick of divorce, standing at the threshold of retirement, or waking up to the realization that they’ve spent years meeting everyone’s needs but their own.

But something happens when you step back. When you soften your focus and allow yourself to see more than just this moment. You begin to realize that even in the midst of loss, something remains. That even when life feels like it’s falling apart, it’s actually rearranging itself in ways you can’t yet understand. And in that shift, peace starts to take shape—not because the pain disappears, but because it no longer defines the entire picture.

If you’re standing in that uncertain space right now, take a breath. Zoom out. Trust that there is more ahead than you can see from here. And if you need someone to help you navigate this transition, you don’t have to do it alone.

Love and Light,

​Michèle Heffron
​Getting to the Heart – Who You Are and What You’re Meant For

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You sit at the kitchen table, staring at the same floral wallpaper you picked out decades ago. The same house. The same routine. The same man across from you, flipping through the morning paper as if you weren’t even there. A lifetime has passed, children raised, anniversaries celebrated, vacations taken. On the outside, your life looks like a success.

But inside?

Inside, you feel invisible. Unheard. Unfulfilled. Unworthy of something more.

You’ve carried this feeling for years—maybe decades. You’ve told yourself to be grateful. You have a house, financial stability, a history together. But no matter how much you remind yourself of what you have, the ache doesn’t go away. Because deep down, you know this is not a marriage. This is a life sentence.

Your husband sees no problem. He’s fine with how things are. In his mind, the two of you have everything you need. But that’s the problem, isn’t it? He has what he needs.You, on the other hand, are starving for connection. For tenderness. For the simple feeling of being seen.​

And then, there’s the guilt.

Guilt for wanting to leave when he hasn’t been outwardly cruel (or what he thinks is cruel). Guilt for disrupting the family, for disappointing your children—even though they’re grown. Guilt for breaking the image of the long-term marriage that others admire.

And the shame.

Shame for not leaving sooner. For staying in something that never truly felt like love. For betraying yourself year after year, hoping things would change, when deep down, you knew they never would.

​I know this place all too well. I was raised Catholic, taught that marriage was forever, no matter how unhappy you were. Divorce wasn’t just frowned upon—it was a failure, a betrayal of vows, of family, of faith. I carried that weight through my own divorces, questioning whether I was selfish, ungrateful, or simply broken.

But here’s what I’ve learned:

Staying in misery does not make you noble. Sacrificing yourself for a marriage that only serves one person is not love.​

And you?

You are not selfish. You are not ungrateful. You are not broken.​

You are a woman who has finally stopped abandoning herself.

And I know how terrifying that is. The unknown. The potential legal battle. The judgment from people who don’t understand. The fear of being alone after so many years of defining yourself as part of a couple.​

But here’s what else I know:

It is not too late for you.

You are worthy of more. Of love, of joy, of peace. Of waking up in the morning and feeling something other than numbness. Of knowing—deep in your bones—that the rest of your life belongs to you, not to someone who stopped seeing you years ago, or never really saw the real you at all.

So, if you’re ready—if even the smallest part of you is whispering, I can’t do this anymore—I invite you to take the first step.

Let’s talk.​

No pressure, no expectations—just a conversation about what’s next for you. Because your story isn’t over. It’s just beginning.

Love and Light,

​Michèle Heffron
​Getting to the Heart – Who You Are and What You’re Meant For

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