Divorce can feel like a slow unraveling, especially after a long marriage.

You look around and find yourself standing in the middle of a life you no longer recognize. The roles you once played—wife, partner, half of a “we”—are gone, and in their place is… what, exactly?

That question can feel heavier than anything else. Because when you’ve spent decades building a life with someone, it’s not just about losing the relationship—it’s about losing the rhythm of your days, the familiar conversations, the shared plans for the future. It’s now about walking into a quiet house and feeling the weight of that silence in a way you never have before.

And so, you stay home. You retreat. You tell yourself you just need time to figure things out.

Honestly, isolation has a way of making the hardest parts even harder.

I know this because I lived it.

Sure, I had friends who checked in, but the idea of going out just to be “social” felt exhausting. I convinced myself that I just needed to rest and take care of myself.

But alone is a tricky place. It can be peaceful, yes. But it can also be the kind of quiet that turns into self-doubt, into sadness, into wondering if this is all there is.

Then one evening, my cousin called. She wasn’t asking how I was or offering advice—she just said, “We’re getting dinner on Friday. I’ll pick you up.” She didn’t give me the chance to overthink it.

That night, for the first time in what felt like forever, I felt more like my Self—not just someone in the middle of a divorce, but a woman with a life still unfolding, still capable of joy, still on the path to what’s next.

That’s the thing about connection. It shifts your energy, your environment, your perspective. You just need to say yes to one invitation, one conversation, one moment that reminds you: life isn’t just happening to you, it’s still happening for you.

Maybe it’s saying yes to lunch with your sister, even if it feels easier to say no. Maybe it’s signing up for that class you’ve been curious about, or even just sitting in a café instead of at home. The point is, do something to get yourself reconnected with the world.

It’s not just about being social—it’s about redefining who you are in this next chapter.

If you’re struggling to see what comes next, let’s talk. I help people just like you navigate this exact moment—the space between who you were and who you are becoming.

And I promise you this: There is so much more ahead than you can see right now.

Let’s figure it out together. Book a call with me today.

Love and Light,

​Michèle Heffron
​Getting to the Heart – Who You Are and What You’re Meant For

When you reconnect with yourself, you reconnect with what’s possible. If you’re feeling lost in the transition of divorce, unsure of what comes next, know that you don’t have to figure it out alone. Let’s explore this next chapter together—schedule a complimentary consultation today and take the first step back to you.

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Digital Spring Cleaning

Open your phone or computer and delete three apps or files that no longer serve you—old screenshots, unopened documents, a game you never play. With each deletion, breathe out and imagine clearing mental clutter as well as digital.

Taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically, is crucial as you navigate life transitions. You’re not alone, and there is a path forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. If you know someone that could use a little boost of Self Care, please feel free to share this tip with them by hitting the button below.

For a long time, I was convinced life was happening to me. People let me down, situations felt unfair, and no matter how hard I tried, it seemed like I was always scrambling to keep up. And I had proof—real, tangible reasons why my struggles were someone else’s fault. If they had just been different, if circumstances had just worked out the way they shouldhave, I wouldn’t have been left picking up the pieces.

That belief felt safe. It made sense.

And it kept me completely stuck.

Then I came across Dr. Wayne Dyer’s words: “Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.” And to be honest, at first, I resisted it. Because if that was true, it meant the power wasn’t in them changing—it was in me changing how I saw things. And I wasn’t sure I was ready for that kind of responsibility.

Blame Feels Comfortable—But It’s a Trap

Let’s be real: blaming others can be oddly satisfying. It lets us off the hook. It gives us a clear villain in our story. But here’s the thing—when we see ourselves as just the recipientof what life hands us, we also give up our ability to change anything. If we’re waiting for someone else to be different before we can be happy, we could be waiting forever.

The real shift happened for me when I started asking a different question: What if this isn’t just about what’s happening to me, but about how I’m seeing it?

That person who hurt me? Maybe they weren’t just cruel—maybe they were operating from their own wounds. That season of my life that felt like failure? Maybe it was actually preparing me for something better. The moments I thought had broken me? Maybe they were the very things shaping me into someone stronger, wiser, and—dare I say it—even more open-hearted.

I will say that once I started shifting my perspective, things did change. Not overnight, not without effort, and definitely not without many moments of frustration—but they changed. In truth, I changed (and continue to learn and grow every day).

Growth Happens When We Stop Going It Alone

I won’t pretend I figured this all out by myself. I had help. I needed people who could call me out (lovingly) when I was slipping into my old narratives. I needed guidance to see beyond my own blind spots. And having the right support made all the difference. Because the truth is, we can only take ourselves so far before we need someone to hold up a mirror and say, Hey, have you considered looking at this a little differently?

So if you’re feeling stuck, frustrated, or just plain exhausted by the way things seem to be going, consider this: What if nothing outside of you has to change for you to feel different? What if the clarity, the peace, the strength you’re searching for isn’t waiting for the world to cooperate, but waiting for you to see it in a new way?

That shift—small as it may seem—is where everything begins. And once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

And that, my friend, is where real transformation starts.

Love and Light,

​Michèle Heffron
​Getting to the Heart – Who You Are and What You’re Meant For

When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. If you’re ready to shift from feeling stuck to feeling empowered, let’s explore what’s possible together. Schedule a complimentary consultation today—your transformation starts with a new perspective.

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Sky Appreciation

Step outdoors and look up. Observe the sky for a full, uninterrupted minute. Notice the colors, the shapes of clouds, or the clear emptiness. Feel yourself connected to something vast and ever-changing. Let this simple observation remind you that there’s space for your own growth, too.

Taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically, is crucial as you navigate life transitions. You’re not alone, and there is a path forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. If you know someone that could use a little boost of Self Care, please feel free to share this tip with them by hitting the button below.