Self-Compliment Mirror Moment

Stand in front of a mirror—maybe right before you leave the house—and speak one genuine, kind compliment about yourself. It can be about your resilience, your humor, or your strength. Accept it fully, as if receiving a warm hug from a dear friend.

Taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically, is crucial as you navigate life transitions. You’re not alone, and there is a path forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. If you know someone that could use a little boost of Self Care, please feel free to share this tip with them by hitting the button below.

“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?” Alice asks the Cheshire Cat. The Cat’s reply is simple yet profound: “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.” 

This moment from Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland offers a timeless truth: If you don’t know where you’re going, any path will do. And while wandering aimlessly can occasionally lead to delightful surprises, it rarely brings the sense of fulfillment and purpose we truly crave. 

Life’s transitions—whether a career shift, a move, or a divorce—often leave us feeling untethered, unsure of where to go next. But what if, instead of wandering, you paused to envision where you wanted to be? What if you allowed yourself to dream about what your life could look like and invited guidance to help you get there? 

The Power of a Clear Vision 

Creating a vision for your life isn’t about rigidly defining every detail. It’s about giving yourself a direction, a beacon to guide you through the inevitable twists and turns. It’s asking yourself the essential question: Where do I want to go? 

This doesn’t mean you need all the answers right away. Sometimes, the act of asking opens a door you didn’t even know was there. The Cheshire Cat might remind you that, without a destination, you’ll still end up somewhere—but wouldn’t you rather that “somewhere” be a place that feels meaningful, aligned, and true to who you are? 

Transformation Starts with Clarity 

When I work with people navigating life’s challenges, I often ask them to envision their life beyond this moment. What does it feel like? What does it look like? For many, this is the first time they’ve paused to think about it. 

At first, the answers may be unclear. That’s okay. Vision doesn’t always come fully formed. It starts with values—understanding what matters most to you. From there, a clearer picture begins to emerge. 

What’s beautiful about creating a vision is that it evolves as you grow. What you want today might change tomorrow, and that’s part of the journey. But having that initial direction helps you navigate life’s uncertainty with more confidence and less overwhelm. 

The Roadmap to Your Future 

A clear vision is more than just a dream—it’s a tool. It helps you set goals, establish priorities, and make decisions that align with your values. It gives you the strength to face challenges because you know where you’re headed. And when life throws you a curveball, as it inevitably will, your vision acts as a steadying force, guiding you back to your path. 

This process is transformative, but it’s not always easy. That’s why having someone to walk alongside you—a coach, mentor, or trusted guide—can make all the difference. They help you bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be, often faster and with more clarity than you could on your own. 

Your Journey Awaits 

Think about how empowered you will feel when you walk with intention, guided by a vision of a life that reflects your deepest values and desires.  

You don’t have to navigate this journey alone. Together, we can create your vision, map out your path, and help you take the first steps toward the life you truly want. 

Love and Light,
​Michèle Heffron
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Divorce is messy. It’s emotional. And let’s face it—sometimes, in the heat of the moment, we let our worst instincts take the wheel. But when it comes to our kids, those moments of weakness can leave lasting scars. 

I know this because I’ve been there. I’ve felt the frustration and fear that divorce brings, and I’ll admit it—I didn’t always handle it the way I wish I had. I let my annoyance with my ex dictate my behavior. I let my anxiety and fear spill over onto my kids. I wanted them on my side, as if there was ever supposed to be a side. I didn’t see, in those moments, how deeply unfair that was—not just to them, but to myself. 

Looking back, I realize that what my kids needed most wasn’t for me to win or prove a point. They needed me to show up for them as their mom, to reassure them that they were safe and loved, and that I could handle the hard stuff so they didn’t have to. 

The Impact of Putting Kids in the Middle 

When parents let their kids get caught in the crossfire of a divorce, the damage can run deep. Kids of all ages—from toddlers to grown adults—are deeply affected by high-conflict situations. 

When kids are made to feel like messengers between parents, they internalize the tension. They may feel torn, confused, or responsible for keeping the peace. Constant conflict between parents can lead to feelings of insecurity and anxiety, and in some cases, even depression. 

Disparaging the other parent, even subtly, sends a damaging message: that one of the two people your child loves most in the world isn’t good enough. It creates loyalty conflicts, guilt, and emotional turmoil that no child should have to bear. 

And here’s something else that’s often overlooked: when kids are dragged into the drama, they’re given opportunities to manipulate the situation. They may play one parent against the other, not because they’re bad kids, but because they’re trying to survive in a world that feels out of control. 

What Your Kids Really Need 

Your kids don’t need you to be perfect, but they need you to be present. They need to know that no matter what’s happening between you and their other parent, you are their constant. 

Reassure them that they’re loved and that everything will be okay. Let them know they’re not responsible for fixing things, taking care of you, or choosing sides. They are kids—they deserve to feel safe, supported, and free to love both parents without guilt. 

It’s not easy to rise above the emotions of divorce. Believe me, I know how hard it can be to bite your tongue or keep your cool when your ex is pushing every button you have. But your kids are watching. They’re learning from how you handle this moment. 

My Wish for You—and for Them 

If I could go back, I’d change so many things. I’d hold onto my power instead of giving it away in moments of frustration. I’d focus on my kids’ needs instead of my own fear and anxiety. I’d remind them, over and over, that they didn’t need to worry about me because I could handle it. 

And that’s my wish for you. You don’t have to get it perfect—none of us do. But you can decide, starting today, to show up differently. To choose love over conflict, reassurance over blame, and maturity over impulsiveness. 

If you’re struggling with this, you’re not alone. Divorce is hard and navigating it with kids makes it even harder. But you don’t have to figure it out on your own. 

I help parents just like you create a path forward that’s healthier for you and your kids. Let’s work together to rewrite the story and help you step into the best version of yourself during this transition. 

Schedule a free consultation with me today, and let’s talk about how we can get there together. Because your kids deserve your best—and so do you. 

Love and Light,
​Michèle Heffron
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Tiny Donation

Look around your home for one item that could serve someone else better than it currently serves you. Donate it with the intention of creating more openness in your life. By releasing even a single object, you’re symbolically making space for new experiences and stories to unfold.

Taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically, is crucial as you navigate life transitions. You’re not alone, and there is a path forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. If you know someone that could use a little boost of Self Care, please feel free to share this tip with them by hitting the button below.

I’ll admit it—I’ve spent a good chunk of my life saying yes when I desperately wanted to say no. Not because I really wanted to go along with someone else’s plan or because I didn’t have my own opinion, but because I was terrified of being seen as selfish. I was afraid of the judgment, of the disappointment etched on someone else’s face.

I think back to all the little moments. Saying yes to splitting a meal I didn’t want because I didn’t want to seem difficult. Agreeing to plans when all I needed was a quiet evening to recharge. Staying in a relationship that no longer felt right, where the connection was frayed, and the misalignment was undeniable. Each yes felt small in the moment, but they added up, like stitching together a suit that never quite fit. I told myself it was fine, that I could adjust, but the truth was—it was suffocating. And with every thread, I moved further away from the person I truly was.

And here’s the thing—they were all small yeses at the time. Tiny decisions I convinced myself didn’t matter much. But over time, those small yeses built a wall, brick by brick, between the life I was living and the life I truly wanted. And the cost of those yeses wasn’t just frustration or fatigue—it was something deeper. It drained me of my energy, my passion, and my connection to who I was at my core.

The Battle Within

What’s even trickier is that once you’ve spent years saying yes out of fear, you start to turn that fear inward. Even when your heart is screaming yes to something you long for—an adventure, a passion project, a bold leap into the unknown—your mind whispers, Don’t be foolish. Be practical. What if it doesn’t work out?

It’s an exhausting dance, isn’t it? The constant tug-of-war between your true self and the self you think the world expects you to be. We spend so much time bending ourselves into shapes we were never meant to take, all to avoid the discomfort of saying no or the fear of stepping outside the lines.

But here’s what I’ve learned: those who truly love us, who see us for who we are, will never ask us to betray ourselves. They won’t demand we trade our authenticity for their comfort.

The Cost of Betraying Ourselves

Every time we say yes when we mean no, a tiny piece of our energy, our life force, drains away. It’s not always obvious at first. Maybe we chalk it up to being tired or stressed, or we convince ourselves we’re doing the right thing by keeping the peace. But over time, that depletion becomes undeniable.

Our souls grow weary from the constant disconnection. The very spark that makes us feel alive—our creativity, our passion, our joy—dims when we force ourselves into a life that doesn’t align with who we are.

Stepping Back into Alignment

Learning to say no isn’t just about setting boundaries with others—it’s about setting boundaries with ourselves. It’s about pausing long enough to ask: What do I truly want? What feels right for me? What aligns with my values and my joy?

This isn’t easy work, especially if you’ve spent years—or decades—putting others first. But it’s necessary if you want to live a life that feels like yours. And here’s the good news: it’s never too late to start.

Your Next Step

If any of this resonates with you, I want you to know that you’re not alone. This is something so many of us face, and it’s not a journey you have to navigate by yourself.

If you’re ready to start letting your yes, be yes and your no, be no—to start living in alignment with who you really are.

Schedule a free consultation with me today, and let’s explore how you can start saying yes to yourself. Because the life you’re meant for is waiting—it’s just on the other side of that first courageous no.

Love and Light,
​Michèle Heffron
​Getting to the Heart – Who You Are and What You’re Meant For

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