Winter has a way of slowing us down. The long, quiet nights and crisp, cold mornings seem to ask us to pause, reflect, and listen—to the truth we’ve been too busy or too scared to face. For some, that truth is clear: this relationship isn’t working anymore.

It’s a hard truth to sit with, isn’t it? The holidays don’t make it any easier. On the surface, it’s all glittering lights, festive gatherings, and cheery Instagram posts. But underneath, for many of us, it’s the season where cracks in our relationships become impossible to ignore.

Maybe it’s the endless arguments about money or the forced smiles around the dinner table. Maybe it’s the gut-punch realization that you’re lonelier in your marriage than you would be alone. Whatever it is, something about this season stirs the question: Is this how I want to live the rest of my life?

If this is you—you’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure it out by yourself.

Why Divorce Filings Surge After the Holidays

You might have heard about the so-called “Divorce Surge” in January. It’s not that everyone wakes up on January 1 and decides to end their marriage. No, that decision often starts now, in the thick of the holiday season–most likely months ago or holiday seasons passed.

Think about it:

• Holiday Stress
  Between gift-giving, family visits, and trying to pull off a Hallmark-worthy celebration, the holidays can bring out the best—and worst—in a relationship. It’s hard to ignore the cracks when you’re juggling all that pressure.
• End-of-Year Reflection
  Winter invites us to slow down and take stock. The question of “Am I happy?” hits differently when you’re staring into the glow of the twinkling lights, wondering what’s missing.
• The New Year’s Promise
  January is all about fresh starts, right? A clean slate. Many people spend the holidays gathering their courage and clarity, preparing to take that first step when the calendar flips.
• Winter Blues and Close Quarters
  Let’s be honest: winter forces us inside—literally and emotionally. If things are already tense, that extra time together can amplify everything that isn’t working.

Why Now is the Time to Hire a Divorce Coach

Here’s the thing: if you’re already feeling the pull toward change, waiting until after the holidays won’t make it easier. In fact, it might make it harder. This season doesn’t have to be about staying stuck; it can be about getting ready.

As a Certified Divorce Coach, I’m here to help you do just that. Let’s clear away the overwhelm and focus on what you truly want. Together, we’ll make sure you step into the new year feeling prepared and empowered, not reactive and regretful.

Here’s how I can help:

1. Cut Through the Chaos

The idea of divorce can feel like standing in front of a mountain with no map. Where do you even begin? That’s where I come in. I’ll help you focus on what matters, break things into manageable steps, and stay grounded so you’re not paralyzed by the emotional storm.

2. Create a Plan

I’m not just here to hold your hand (although I’m happy to do that, too). I’m here to help you organize your thoughts, your goals, and yes, even your paperwork. We’ll make sure you’re prepared for every step, whether you’re still considering divorce or ready to take the leap.

3. Keep Your Eyes Forward

Divorce is about more than ending or completing a relationship, it’s about reclaiming your life. I’ll help you focus on the possibilities ahead rather than getting lost in the pain of what’s behind. Together, we’ll make sure you’re making decisions that align with your values and your future.

4. Work Smarter with Your Team

Therapists, mediators, attorneys all play a role in the divorce process. But here’s the secret: without someone helping you manage the emotional rollercoaster; you’re not getting the most out of those professionals. I’ll help you show up to your legal and financial appointments with clarity and purpose, saving you time, money, and stress.

This Season Can Be the Start of Something New

I know this is hard. I’ve been there myself, staring down the holidays and wondering how I’d get through. But I also know that with the right support, this season of change can become a season of growth.

You don’t have to wait until January to start feeling better. You don’t have to go through this alone. Let’s turn this winter into the beginning of something beautiful—a time to rediscover your strength, reclaim your life, and step boldly into the future you deserve.

Love and Light,

Michele

If you’re ready to explore the possibilities, I’d love to support you.

Together, we can uncover the harmony that’s waiting in your life.

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Nature’s Art

Bundle up and go out for a walk. Notice the cloudy sky, maybe a hint of early winter snow in the air. While walking, collect a few colorful leaves, acorns, or pinecones. When you get home, arrange them in a simple bowl or vase as a centerpiece. It’s a small act of bringing the outdoors in and celebrating the season’s beauty. Smile.

Taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically, is crucial as you navigate life transitions. You’re not alone, and there is a path forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. If you know someone that could use a little boost of Self Care, please feel free to share this tip with them by hitting the button below.

Gratitude Text

Think of someone who’s made a positive impact on your life recently. Send them a quick text to say thank you. It doesn’t have to be long—just a few words to let them know you appreciate them. You’ll brighten both their day and yours.

Taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically, is crucial as you navigate life transitions. You’re not alone, and there is a path forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. If you know someone that could use a little boost of Self Care, please feel free to share this tip with them by hitting the button below.

As Thanksgiving draws near, the season can bring an emotional weight, especially when you’re navigating the ups and downs of divorce. In a season that often highlights togetherness and tradition, it can be hard to feel “at home” in the familiar rituals. But even in this time of transition, there is a gentle opportunity to reflect, heal, and discover peace in new and unexpected ways.

Here are some tips to help you approach Thanksgiving with a sense of intention, resilience, and even grace:

1. Allow Yourself to Feel Everything

Thanksgiving may stir up a blend of emotions—grief, nostalgia, relief, even gratitude. Whatever comes up, give yourself permission to feel it all without judgment. Take moments to reflect, to journal, or to talk with someone who understands. There’s no “right” way to feel and allowing these feelings to surface is part of your healing process.

2. Create New Traditions That Feel True to You

This holiday might not look the same as it once did, and that’s okay. See this as an invitation to create traditions that resonate with who you are right now. Host a Friendsgiving, volunteer for a cause that speaks to your heart, or start a simple gratitude practice. Focus on creating meaningful moments rather than recreating the past.

3. Lean on Your People

Holidays can be particularly isolating if you feel disconnected, so reach out to your support system. Share a meal with friends who uplift you, connect with family, or talk with a coach or therapist who understands this journey. You don’t have to walk through this alone, and sometimes even a simple conversation can lighten the emotional load.

4. Embrace Small Acts of Self-Care

Take time for little things that nurture you—whether it’s savoring your favorite dessert, taking a brisk walk through crisp fall leaves, or simply resting without an agenda. Small acts of self-care are powerful reminders that you are worthy of joy and care, even in the midst of challenges.

5. Redefine Gratitude in a Way That Feels Right

Gratitude doesn’t have to be a forced exercise; it can be as simple as noticing something that brings a sense of warmth or comfort. Maybe it’s the comfort of a cozy blanket, the way the afternoon light falls through the window, or the sound of laughter—even if it feels distant right now. Let gratitude be gentle and authentic to where you are.

6. Set Gentle Boundaries for Yourself

The pressure to make Thanksgiving “perfect” can feel overwhelming, so let yourself off the hook. Say no to gatherings or traditions that don’t bring you peace. Choose activities that truly nourish you and remember that setting boundaries is a form of self-respect and a way to protect your well-being.

7. Reflect on the Future You’re Creating

Take a moment to imagine the future you’re stepping into. What qualities do you want to bring forward? Who do you want to become? Divorce may feel like an ending, but it’s also a doorway to a new beginning, one that is full of possibilities. Holding space for this vision can bring a sense of hope, even if it’s just a spark.

8. Let Forgiveness Be Part of Your Journey—For Yourself and Others

This holiday season, see if there’s room for even a small measure of forgiveness, whether it’s toward yourself or someone else. Forgiveness isn’t about condoning hurtful behavior; it’s about freeing yourself from the weight of resentment. Offer yourself compassion for any past choices and remember that healing takes time.

9. Focus on the Present Moment

When the mind wanders to past memories or future uncertainties, bring yourself back to now. Thanksgiving doesn’t need to be perfect, and it doesn’t need to feel like past holidays. Today is just one day on your journey, a moment in your life’s unfolding. Be kind to yourself and remember that this day is one part of a much larger, evolving story.

Remember, this holiday is a single day within a much larger journey of growth, healing, and self-discovery. By choosing grace, honoring your needs, and focusing on what truly matters, you can bring a sense of peace and empowerment to this season of change.

Wishing you strength, resilience, and moments of quiet gratitude this Thanksgiving.

Love and Light,

Michele

If this Thanksgiving season feels like a tender balancing act between healing and hope, I’m here to walk with you. Together, we can uncover the strength and clarity to navigate this time with intention and grace. Schedule a free consultation with me today, and let’s begin creating a life that honors who you are and the future you’re stepping into.

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