A word about Patience
In his teachings, the great Lao Tzu said “Simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures…Patience with both friends and enemies, you accord with the way things are.” It is also said that patience is a virtue. And I suppose patience can be...
Gaslighting: The Silent Saboteur in Relationships and Divorce
Gaslighting is one of the most insidious forms of emotional abuse, often misunderstood and overlooked in relationships. This manipulative tactic can make the victim doubt their own reality, leading to severe emotional and psychological distress. Gaslighting doesn't...
NO GOING BACK
“You can't go back to how things were. How you thought they were. All you really have is...now.” ― Jay Asher A while back while talking to a friend, I was sharing some sentimental feelings regarding what I missed about the experience of a relationship I had completed...
Divorce Gifts Can Change Your Life
Here at Getting to the Heart, I’m not an advocate for divorce, I just happen to work with many people who are either going through or have gone through a one. Having been through two of my own divorces, I understand how incredibly upsetting the process can be. The...
Defending Your Excuses Won’t Bring You Happiness!
Ah, the art of excuse-making. If there were an Olympic event for it, many of us would be gold medalists. We craft our reasons, shape them into unassailable truths, and guard them as if our very lives depended on it. Excuses are like a cozy blanket on a cold day. They...
Self Care Saturday with Michele Heffron
Nature Walk It’s June and a good time to go out to savor the beauty of nature and the outdoors. Breathe in the air and think about all the wonders in your life. Even if you’re in the midst of something unpleasant or are surrounded by concrete and noisy traffic, step...
5 Things I Wish I’d Known Before My Divorce
Going through a divorce can feel like having the ground swept out from under your feet. I know because I've been there—twice in fact! As a life and divorce coach now, I look back and realize there were several things I wish I had known before my own divorce...
Transform your life from fine to FABULOUS
Earlier this year, I wrote a short email entitled “Why Settle for FINE When You can Have FABULOUS?” After the story was published, I received some awesome feedback from several people and few asked if I would share a few tips on how to go about becoming FABULOUS...
It’s Time for a New Agreement!
Before I even knew I was embarking on a journey of self-discovery and reinvention, I read a little book called The Four Agreements that made a significant impact on the trajectory of my life. I highly recommend this transformative gem to anyone who hasn’t yet been...
Narcissist
I knew something was wrong, but I didn’t want to let myself accept it. I had already been married and divorced once before and couldn’t believe I had let it happy again. I was a strong, confident, accomplished woman…I didn’t think things like this could happen to me!...
Your Story
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis It was Freshman orientation at the University of San Diego and my ex-husband and I were getting our son settled into his new digs for the year. As is...
Hourglass
The more sand has escaped from the hourglass of our life, the clearer we should see through it. ~Niccolo Machiavelli When I was a little girl, my mom used a tiny “hourglass” with a 5 minute duration to measure the cook-time of soft boiled eggs. Of course, the silence...
What are you waiting for?
One of my favorite poems by the great Dr. Suess is called The Waiting Place. “The waiting place… …for people just waiting. Waiting for the train to go or a bus to come, or a plane to go or the mail to come, or the rain to go or the phone to ring, or the snow to...
How Good Are You Willing to Let Your Life Get?
This was a question one of my mentors asked in the early days of my quest to change my life and it stumped me. I wasn’t sure how to speak my truth about what I really wanted in life because, as much as I wanted to believe I deserved more in this life, I still harbored...
Healthy Boundaries
Michèle Heffron, a certified life and relationship coach, emphasizes the importance of distinguishing healthy from unhealthy relationships. She outlines 10 key indicators of relationship health, including comfortable pace, trust, and honesty. Her approach, grounded in personal and professional experience, aims to foster growth and understanding in relationships, offering resources and coaching to help individuals navigate life’s transitions and enhance their connections with others.